Welcome to the SR family!
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed. We are here to support you!
I am always finding words of wisdom in the sticky (permanent) posts at the top of this forum. Those posts contain some of our stories, too. Here is a link to a sticky post that contains steps that have helped some of us:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
I believe you can trust your own instincts. If you believe your mother was drinking, then trust yourself. What will you do with this information is the question for you?
I wanted to fix my alcoholic loved one. I wanted to shake some sense into him so he would see that he was ruining his one precious life. I tried everything I could think of. Then I came to the is website and started attending Alanon meetings.
I learned that I did not cause the alcoholism, I could not control the alcoholism, and I was not powerful enough to cure the alcoholism. I learned that I needed to focus on my one precious life.
Take care of YOU! you are worth the effort!