From what i know of al anon meetings we were told that they think all the meetings should be open ones, cos its a family illness and that it helps seeing the other side. But i kinda think u went for him not for u bless u, if he does start drinking again then let him just u work on yourself. Do u go to al anon? cos they helped me dunno what i would of done without all the good ppl there look after yourself and leave him to do what he will do ,cos one thing im learning is u cant make em give up hope this helps cos i still feel very much a newbie here and am still learning myself xxxx