Hey Joe! Outside of SR there is so very little understanding of alcoholism it seems...I think that is what you are running into. I have a way of looking at it that might help. Everyone is on a scale starting at grandma who has never had a drink in her life at 1 ending with a late stage alcoholic in the ER dying of liver failure at 100. I would put "normal drinkers on that scale between 30-60...after 60 you start to get into murky waters and the further along you go the higher your number would be...I would put myself at about 78. Looking at it this way instead of thinking about labels helps me see that even someone in the high 50's is headed in the wrong direction.