I'm with you on that one.
My heart goes out to you JW123. A lot of what you're saying reminds me of me almost 5 years ago when I became involved with my ex. He said some similar things. He came around eventually and I felt "special." If I could hop in a time machine today and go back to myself, I would say, "RUN!" I was emotionally involved and had already fallen for him.
Suppose he comes to you and changes his mind. He will do things like this again and again. You will spend many evenings upset while he is out and about with others enjoying himself. You will not be considered. Just my two cents.