Chicory, I am a slow learner, and I have had to hit many bottoms in my codependency, including with my 32-year-old AD.
I was so drained physically, emotionally, and spiritually that I knew I had to take my life back, and get out of the front row seat to her addictions.
I'm no longer willing to give her even a sliver of my soul. You will get to that point too when you are ready.