i would remove my kids from that environment asap. maybe you can suggest that he come to your house for a visit. he is trying to make excuses why things were in disarray. he was drinking and clearly didn't give a dam what happened to the kids. my AH does this all time. he will get angry at me for something stupid he did because he doesn't want to face up to making a mistake because of the drink...... he forgot to pick me up at work because he passed out. when he got there, somehow he found a reason to blame me for it. you have little ones and you need to think about them first. if he gets mad, so be it.