Hey Louise558!!! Welcome!!!
There is no definate answer to whether or not you husband has problem w/drinking or is an alcoholic. However, it sounds to me that it is affecting your life and therefore is a problem for you....that is all that matters. Convincing him that he has a problem therefore is useless, instead continue to do those things that you enjoy.....maybe even plan an evening out w/the girls.
I would recommend reading "Co-Dependant no More" and "Choices" by Melodie Beatty.
Keep coming back, Constant