Telling my story helped me get rid of the shame.
A couple of years ago, my alcoholic father developed dementia and needed to be place in a facility where people could look after him. He had no savings, so I had to talk with a number of social workers and organizations to help find him assistance.
His alcoholism and the life that he chose to live was a MAJOR source of shame for me. However, the process of trying to find him housing and telling his/our story over and over again actually helped in my recovery.
What I truly found amazing was many people confessed that they too had an alcoholic parent(s).
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