Hi there and WELCOME to SR. I'm glad you found this place. There's a lot of support to be had here, 24/7.
I strongly suggest you find yourself some Al-Anon meetings as well as individual counselling. Being partnered with an alcoholic/addict is one heck of a rollercoaster; you really need support to get through this.
I second the recommendation of Melody Beattie's "Codependent No More". It really helped me understand why I kept dating the SAME type of guy over and over, and why all my "friends" kept walking all over me.
And finally, I have to ask, what do you love about this man and is that "enough" to keep a relationship/a future going if he's not in any kind of recovery program?
I hope you keep reading and posting as much as you like! SR is always open.