FGB, I don't know a mother who has not given freely to her children. Regardless of his circumstances, he is still your son, and you still love him. You might not like his addiction to alcohol. You might not like his behavior. But you love him. He is still a human being with feelings and he needs help. A pack of cigarettes isn't going to change a thing. He needs to get his addiction under control. I too am the mother of an addict, and I know how much it hurts. I'm sorry your going through this. :ghug3