Originally Posted by
Freedom1990 
I guess my question to you is why are you making this your issue, when in fact it should be his issue to deal with while in rehab?
I too felt it was my issue, as long as the conversation at the rehab tended to consider my home, his home.
Coming 'home" to my house never worked in the 6 or so times he's attended rebab or detox. It was always a very short time until he was right back to his usual MO.
This last time I not only suggested SL, I stressed it, but he claimed that he didn't have the funding. I can no longer afford to fund his attempts at recovery. Regardless, I felt it important to reiterate that my home was not an option, because in the past, he has reasoned that since he was "all better" after rehab, my door was open as it had been in the past.
No easy answers, but to do what you think is appropriate at the time, and adjust if you feel its necessary. The important thing to remember is that there is no wrong answer.
(((Hugs)))