Yes everything else has to take a back seat to recovery for a while...then when you have finished the work you need to do on yourself you will be a different person and think of yourself a lot less so then it will be everyone elses turn;-)
Your sobriety must always come first but that doesnt mean that a recovered alcoholic is selfish and self centered just sane and mature enough to know without their sobriety they are of no use to man or beast...