I'm trying to figure out how to understand and encourage her without enabling.
I never was able to do that before my daughter found recovery, because she was always under the influence. In one ear and out the other. The threat of jail was the only thing that worked and I'll always have a soft spot for the judge and bondsman
After rehab, the best encouragement I could give was and still is my own recovery. She depends on me working a recovery program, but not for her sobriety. It is for a genuine and healthy relationship between us. I love my daughter too and God willing, she'll be 23 in 9 days, still working recovery and becoming the woman she's meant to be