Alcoholics in recovery have a way of keeping lovers on a string. They push and pull, and confuse the hell out of you, and when they come back "100%," if they do, you will still have a hard time trusting them, and there will be doubt and discomfort.
You have no choice but to move on and leave it in his hands. I'm sorry, my heart goes out to you. Good for you for ignoring him, and don't lose yourself over this.