Here's another quote for you, Tan..
"He/She has a higher power, and it's not you." That one has helped me alot.
I agree with Ann... don't beat yourself up about the phone call. I have done the same many a time...
I have had to go "no contact" with my AS for a while, or as I call it "taking a little break from his addiction." He left me a voice mail last week, and I listened to it after thinking that he might be asking for a ride to detox, etc. All he said was, "Well, so... you're STILL not talking to me?" I just deleted it knowing that he is not ready.
Everyone has to find their own path... even us. My prayers are with you.
Here's a good link that is a sticky at the top of this forum. Sometimes, when I feel lost, I re-read it.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2681899
with love,