I catch myself blaming my problems and difficulties on my BF about once a week. And I'm not even drunk. Thankfully I do not do this out loud and when I catch myself thinking this way, I quickly correct my thinking. I hope someday practicing this self-correction will "fix" this problem I have.
Goldengirl, I began my recovery from alcoholism and codependency about 13 years ago and I am JUST becoming aware of this about myself. Please don't take it personally that he blames you for his shortcomings. It really has nothing to do with you. The more you learn about this disease, the less confused you will become.