WOW! love this thread ...but they are adults? right? let them live like adults and let them live they way they want to...and mom, step back...how am i gonna learn to take care OF ME and my children if my mother and father are always bailing me out all the time...??? I am 42 and a WIDOW...I needed support..not to be told or HELPED what to do, this is something i had to learn...for myself and my children....