Well, thank you all for the experiences... he already filed and we are in the 90 day period - my strategy was to repeat myself whenever he contacts me about what needs to be done at that time.
He was reasonable at first, but now that there is a change/problem to address he has been all over the place changing his mind from day to day. My strategy was to refrain from any reaction knowing his changeableness.
I really can't afford a lawyer which is why I was leaving it to him - even the do it yourself kind is just as expensive. When it all started I wasn't wanting a D anyway, but the past few weeks of his unreasonable behavior and verbal threats convinces me that I want out. Guess it was dumb to leave it to him... still learning....