No problem! Welcome to SR, Andrea.
Good for you on attending Alanon! There you will find face-to-face support among people who understand. I highly encourage you to attend on a regular basis to start your own recovery from the effects of his alcoholism.
There are 3 C's to remember, dear:
You didn't cause his alcoholism.
You can't control his alcoholism.
You can't cure his alcoholism.
His recovery is just that, his recovery.
If he relapses, he relapses.
Alcoholism is a progressive disease. It only gets worse, never better, if left untreated.
Please get your hands on a book called "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. It was a real eye-opener for me.
I had to leave my EXAH because his alcoholism and addictions were out of control. He went through rehab, and chose to go back to drinking/using.
Please do keep posting, and know that you are among friends.
