The first two years of my 4.5 year relationship with a raging alcoholic, I worked my @ss off on the relationship always fixing things, working on things and bending over backwards to please him or his friends. I accomodated him and all he wanted. And during that point we had some intense fights in which I was told, "You need to look at yourself and figure out what you are doing wrong. You are always wrong." I was mad...more bullying and more expectations after bending into a pretzel. But - Ironically he was right. I shouldn't have been doing all that pleasing, bending over backwards and fixing things. I quit doing nice things or accomodating. And then 2.5 years later, I finally moved on, lol. Thanks for the advice buddy.