Nightowl,
One of the biggest benfits I have gained from attending Al-Anon and working the 12 steps is that I don't have to let fear rule my life anymore. All the fear, guilt, and anger came from things I was taught that were wrong. Through attendance at meetings, I have gained so much support. I have found people who can teach me how to forgive myself, change those old beliefs, and move forward in my life. I am tired of living in the past. It's gone. I only have today. I can make it as good or as miserable as I chose. Working the steps has shown me how to let go of guilt and fear that trapped me. It has given me guidelines for living a more happy and serene life. It is definitely worth trying if you are fed up with what you are doing now. Hugs, Magic