My first sponsor I picked because she had what I wanted. LOL...she was 'cool'. Ha...it never occured to me to ask her if she had done the steps herself. (she had not). After a year with her, wondering why I was still restless, irritable and dicontent, I took the advice from someone in the rooms and thanked her for her time and moved on.
Picked a sponsor who was willing and able to guide me through the steps.
A sponsor is not a therapist/marriage counsellor/banker/medical doctor/babysitter.
JMO...but a sponsor is someone who guides us through the steps and shares their experience strength and hope. And then urges us to get out there and repeat for somebody else what they have done with us.
"No human power could relieve our suffering...."
My sponsor was a guide through the steps and a nudge in the diection of reliance on a higher power. I love her dearly, respect her with my whole being, she is an angel with skin.
But she aint my higher power.:ghug3