OMG.. I was told the same... to "work on my self worth" by a DRUG ADDICT, and that "I needed to see a psychiatrist" by an ALKIE.
The thing here is the way they tell it to you.. anyone can come and say "look it seems you are suffering a great deal, perhaps you need to look at this or that and not be alone in your struggles".. from a place of LOVE AND TRUE CONCERN... and it will be good.
Then the other is the kind we are talking about here "the best defense is a good offense".
Since I talked to pro's and raised my self esteem a little I feel better
but all that "its YOUR fault!" is part of the sick downward spiral, for them at least, I am grateful we are not intoxicated, we are more humble and introspective and able to ask for help... so we can stop dancing to that sad, sad tune.