Originally Posted by
Babyblue 
incapable of sustaining boundaries while he was binging.
She became very emotionally manipulative of him.
she was too obsessive and possessive in the relationship. She responded to him more like an object not capable of finding his way to get well unless she could 'guide' him.
I wanted NOTHING to do with saving him, I told him many times that I knew he could do it and he had my support.
If you want any glimmer or shred of friendship or a relationship with her, you will let her find her OWN way.
Babyblue-
you did not seem too hard on me. your message has some good points. when things got really bad this summer my boundaries were gone. in the beginning i did think i could help save her but by the end i told her i understood this was on her and that i would step out of the way, but that i couldno longer give her money or help with the addiction. but that i would be there for her when the time came. inside our relationship i wasn't possessive or anything. all this weirdness that i have now has come out after she left.