You know DT, you're right.
My problem is I give the steps a little work, then I get frustrated, and I think, "hey Mary wanted me to call her", so I put the book down, call Mary (or insert name here__________) and we talk, she may want to get together, then there goes my " recovery work" till next time, lol.
Then when I'm all broken up and hungover, I come here. That's what I have to stop, so I can't date now, and that leaves that void that "Mary" filled wide open. Then what?