Vindictive ex is right!
BUT seeing it all - in black n white... knowing that the reason why the kids were late those times were mostly because my nights up worrying or trying to figure out my abf.
I remember one day I was driving the boys and they were talking and my mind was on my abf... I didn't even hear a word they were saying to me.
UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!
Gawd - I'm sooo glad to be out of that mess!
So - my ESH for peeps out there in these toxic relationships and do have kids and don't think their kids are being touched by it (cause I did) - they are! And I swear I didn't see it at the time. And now they are being punished for my recklessness...
My son calls me this morning at 8:45am and his dad says... "off the phone in 5 minutes - you have chores to do". I ask him what chores - and he says to clean up his little brothers (half brother) toys.
So - I figure I now have 2 years of clean attendance records to prove myself worthy again!
Blue - you are right - I know this because the boys see right through it.