good work going into the bathroom to say the serenity prayer!
and yes, that is crummy that you're supposed to call him when you want him to see your little girl. that puts it all on you. don't fall for it.
and this is so that communication improves? i hope you can see how ridiculous that is.
i wouldn't hold my breath that he'll book that appointment for the counselor either. just a bunch of quacking probably.
sorry he's confused you all over again. just remember that the next time he wants to take you out and spare yourself the rollercoaster ride.