Thanks, TakingCharge999 for a wonderful post. I am nearly one year past our separation and several months past our divorce. I had never been around alcoholism and I didn't know what I was getting into. It took six years before I had finally had enough and I decided that if I was going to have a life again I was going to have to make it happen rather than wait on him to get sober. It was like being in a battle and then the battle is over and you're still in the foxhole. You hear that the gunfire has stopped but you're still afraid to get out of the foxhole. And then you kind of peek out and everything looks o.k. so you start venturing out. Finally you get out and decide that the battle is over and it's o.k. to live again.
I, also, feel my spiritual self back again and it feels great. I am in awe of every day and can't wait to see what my HP has in store.