Erem - I am so sorry and feel for you. I could launch into stuff, but you have received good advice and it sounds like you are going to make it through. You could draw a sharpie moustache on him while he is sleeping .. or write him a note that you either do or do not decide to attach to the steering wheel next time he asks to borrow your car to go out...
I know I am going to being really cranky with my husband for not understanding, so I feel you. But that's just me - not saying you are cranky!
kudos for not drinking.