I understand how you feel. My husband still drinks. When he goes out, I chauffeur him to make sure he's not drinking too much and driving. It stinks.
Even more of a shame is that I know not to even ask him not to drink. He'd promise me and, then, just do it.
When you quit drinking, you see the world around you as it really is. The hardest part for me has been learning to accept the things I cannot change . . . and making them work anyway.
Best.