...had planned on having a few more months of al-anon under my belt before I would have to really interact with him.
Maybe this answers your question? Are
you ready to meet with him yet?
If you decide to go, be prepared for a whirlwind of emotions. The kind that cloud your vision and scramble the common sense synapses in your brain.
If he is in recovery, then he will respect yours, no matter what you decide to do.