i see.
sometimes, when i'm in a situation where i am harboring resentment towards someone and need to apoligize, but can't for whatever reason, i do a visualization...
i go into meditation and once i hit my clear spot, i bring that person into my mind's eye. and then i give them something...for me i use a flower...
now, many time, i have so much resentment towards them that i find it almost impossible to do this. in that case, i bring in someone else we both know into my minds eye, and i give them the flower and ask them to give it to the person i need to make amends with.
it goes a long way for me to clearing the energy and trying to nuture forgiveness.
naive