First, I totally understand why you were upset. I do not think it changes your sobriety, but I get why it upset you so much. Hug to you!
Second, as for the marriage/husgband. Well, I don't know what words of wisdom I can give you. But I can tell you that I understand. I have a similar situation in my home. My husband still drinks, and may be heading to drinking more than when I drank. He even has me buy his beer for him quite often (my counselor does NOT like that at all!). One day I told him I wished I could have a drink. His response was "No one is telling you you can't drink." Well, I am. I am telling myself I cannot drink. I know what will happen, I know where it will lead. So, no I can't and won't have a drink.
I am in a huge struggle with my marriage right now. So, while I don't have anything to offer in the way of help, I just wanted to offer my support and let you know you are not alone!