[QUOTE=sailorjohn;2745045]I may just be you.
This is where I made my mistake. I asked for other's opinions about whether I was right about what my gut was saying and it goes back to all the abuse/codie stuff where my feelings, observations and beliefs have been thrown in my face and where I learnt as a child that I didn't see what I saw, hear what I heard or felt what I felt. And as an adult I have carried my lack of self esteem throughout my relationships as well as the shame and blame of being abused and I've been told I'm the one who's insane and seeing it all wrong. Next time I'll have enough faith in myself to say "I believe some people have been harsh".