Thank you for sharing this piece, Floss. It did help me and gave me an understanding that I didn't have before. I have been asked many times why I have stayed and why I don't have more secure boundaries. Now, I am better able to process those questions and reflect on my part of this disease, but at first those types of questions did feel a little blaming to me. I DID know I had options and I DID know that I wasn't being treated fairly and I DID know that I needed to take better care of myself. What I didn't know is that I wasn't alone ~ other people have been through the craziness also ~ and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I didn't know that it wasn't my job to take care of my husband because he didn't seem able to take care of himself. I didn't feel validated, I guess.