yes yes and yes again!
In the beginning of my recovery I needed validation of where I was at at that stage. That it was like living in a asylum and somebody threw away the key. VALIDATION. The shame could have propelled me into recovery, but the most help was from people that told me that my situation was bad , but that I am worthy of recovery and that I was worthy of respect. Self- respct also. There is a subtle difference.
We are all shamed. We are already so ashamed when the blinders come off, to hear from well-meaning people that we must be crazy to take all of the nonsense is close to abuse again.
Just my opinion. I was very very sick with codependency. Thanks to God , therapy, SR I can go on with my life while my STBXH is in his fifteenth rehab!
love and validation to all still suffering!