Your questions are valid, but no, I have not verified her statements. However, she CHOSE to go to AA on her own. We talk about the meetings and she said that someone told her that "there are wolves in sheeps clothing" at these meetings. When I offered to go to the meeting with her, she wanted me to. I told her she needs to speak up in the meeting without calling anyone out. Pointing fingers could be very dangerous.
She is on EBT and makes very little money, so one on one counseling is not an option.
She has spoke to her preacher and he said it is Satan working at holding her back. Not trying to direct this into a religious thread, but I take her word at face value. She has never really lied to me about her drinking. She admits she is a terrible liar.
Any other suggestions?