Originally Posted by
Jadmack25 
Quote from forge: ((( he has been more than disrespectful and rude. He has been violent in the past. We separated a few times before, went to marriage counseling, and started individual counseling, though I never went back. Not long after reconciling, drinking starts back up and the counseling and AA stop. )))
You have tried counseling, Rehab and AA, have reconciled and still it goes back to square 1 for you. The drinking, the disrespect, the rudeness and even violence against you.....which part of this are you expected to "like" about him or your marriage?
If you don't want him back, don't want to go thru the motions yet again...DON'T.
If you are over it, say so...... and let him either drink up or be a misery sober, whichever he wants, without making your life a hell.
Trust me honey, life is too darn short to waste it on people who waste theirs.
I didn't like it when it has happened and the words that come out of his mouth are just awful. There are times when it's completely different and the entire situation is so confusing, I feel like my head is spinning sometimes.
I am not over it by any means. The whole thing infuriates me. Actually I don't think I will ever be over it. I am so mad at him and even more mad at myself.