acdirito~ He has been drinking now for 10 months and this was after 9 years of sobriety. He has been going to AA for most of the year, but still drinks. The longer his drinking continues the more secretive he gets. He finds new hiding places for his beer, he'll drink after I go to bed, etc... He is a smoker so he brushes his teeth constantly and is always sucking on mints, so I always struggle with detecting the beer on his breath.
I appreciate hearing from everyone and I do need to start focusing more on myself. Things are just so much more complicated this time around with 2 young kids.