For me if I thought something wasn't "right" then it wasn't. Trust your instincts. The part about him not wanting to go to the AA meeting because he felt he would stop at the gas station sounds like b.s. I got a doctorate in b.s. while married to my XAH and I think I am smelling it again. Just keep your eyes and ears open and the truth will let itself be known. They're not really as slick at hiding it as they think they are.
Hugs to you.