Hi fullcircle.
I would love to hear more about you and your daughter. so keep posting.
I went through this with my son and sister. It is heart wrenching stuff and to see them hurting and out of control is so tough. With my son, I had to get tough, love him at the same time and slowly try to find out what was really going on with him, inside his head, let him know that I was in fact proud of him (even though I didnt like him much then) and talk when he needed it.
JJ