It seems to be common for addicts to center their lives around the addictive substance, no matter what it costs them or their families. My own AW will not agree to quit drinking, even though she's spending enough on booze to pay our utility bills, knowing that our financial situation is precarious.
She recently fell and broke her ankle, which will end up costing us thousands out of pocket, not to mention the extra burden on me to take care of her. She acts all sweet and says thank you, but has yet to apologize, and refuses to admit her problem.
She's also manipulative to some degree, at least with those who still feel sorry for her (I don't any more). She lied to her family about the accident, so they think I'm some kind of ogre for not staying home with her, or hiring someone to baby sit (neither of which we can afford).
Apparently, it goes with the territory. It's frustrating and maddening for those of us who put up with it out of a sense of love, guilt, obligation... or whatever.
Good luck to you.