I appreciate everyones comments, this really is a caring group, there are others in my husbands family with alcoholism that don't accept that they have a problem. I've been wanting to get more involved with al-anon for a long time because of them and now with my son and my conerns about my husband, I do think that I need it and like what it has to offer. I also like this forum. It feels good to express myself here and I already feel like I've learned things about myself. I know I have a long way to go, but want to do it.