hi l2l-
i'm responding to that initial rush of anger you felt when you hung up the phone with your mother.
i found it helpful to understand the nature of anger. it is an energy that passes thru us. it must move.
i find it helpful when i feel anger to move my body. this gets the energy out of me quickly and then i am left with the emotions without the rush of energy.
next time you feel a burst of anger, try moving your body. what works for me is to drop to the floor and do 20 pushups. that gets it out of me. or, you could run/walk quickly around the block 2 times. or, do 20 jumping jacks. anything will work, just move the energy.
it take some self discipline to do this immediately, but try it, it works!
naive