Originally Posted by
angelstory 
I know what my boundaries should be, but haven't been able to pull them off. Essentially I have just become very hateful and cold hearted. That is my detachment and it's not working for me!
Being hateful and cold hearted sounds more like anger than anything to do with a boundary. Anger is the emotional reaction to someone who is not doing as you want/expect them to do. Expecting someone to do something is not a boundary. Trying to control the outcome is not a boundary.
Is it acceptable to have an active addict in your children's life?