"I will share with you some of the more embarrassingly horrific things that occurred over the years as I come to terms with them...you know the things that make you shudder with shame and embarrassment when you recall them. They actually make me flush and sweat when I recall them."
You can use this to help you as long as you acknowledge that you may have been guilty of these things but shame will not help you in the least. You have to put down the shame somehow. I know this is probably a foreign concept but I could not carry any length of sobriety as long as I was hauling around all that heavy and destructive shame.
Best of luck! We're here for you! You are important to my sobriety.