Neo - I always enjoy reading your posts and this one was no exception.
I know exactly what you mean. These "A..ha! moments" are so interesting to me b/c they always seem to come after-the-fact. What I mean is all of a sudden, we realize something that has been going on for a long time.
All we had to do was remove the alcohol and work 12 simple steps.
Viva recovery!
Kjell