I haven't had a serious urge since my first week sober, two years ago. In my case, I think it DID have to do with surrendering, a hundred percent. I had no reservations, no lurking suspicions that I could ever drink normally. I tried it, for four and a half years, without success. I was, quite simply, DONE.
How thoroughly have you worked the Steps? I know for a lot of people, they did not get relief from the urges until they did that.
I was very slow to work them, but after finding I was still restless, irritable and discontented (despite not having an urge to drink to make the feeling go away), I am now working them with my sponsor.