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Old 10-03-2010, 05:02 AM
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Pelican
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Thanks for checking in and letting us know how things are going. We care about you!

I am going to recommend a book for you. "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. It is a practical guide, easy to read with exercises for application, about relationships and how we can become entangled in our loved ones lives.

That book has helped me with detachment, grieving, boundaries, self-love and so many other areas of my recovery. I have read it several times and refer to it often.

You may be experiencing grief over the loss of this relationship. You did a healthy thing is asking an active alcoholic to leave your home, but it was still a relationship with an emotional investment. There will be grieving for the loss of what was, what could have been and of future dreams. Anger, depression, bargaining, etc are all part of the process.

Let us know how we can help you during this time.

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