(((Steve))) - you're trying SO hard to focus on the "good" (she went to the meeting), that you're totally blowing of the reality...she changed her mind. Using was more important.
She's grown, she gets to MAKE that choice.
Like ((Laurie)), I lived on the streets. Yep, it's bad, but that was MY choice and I was determined that NO ONE was gonna tell ME what to do! I lived a very high-risk lifestyle, and I did what I had to, to get my dope.
IF she goes to detox and IF she goes to rehab and IF she works recovery like it's the most important thing in her life (because it is), it will be HER choice, and her's only...and it will still be up to her, every day for the rest of her life, whether she uses or not.
My uncle was a heroin addict for more than 40 years, before he quit. Do you REALLY want to be doing this 40 years from now? He's STILL being maintained on methadone, and he is in his late 60's?
Hugs and prayers,
Amy